This article is intended to help you connect with your authentic self. Most of us work hard to make everyone around us happy, but sometimes we lose focus on making ourselves happy. You only get one life to live, so you have to worry about spending it doing what makes you happy, not everyone else. We don’t want to spend several years making everyone else happy and then waking up one day to realize that all this time we’ve been miserable. Finding your true values and beliefs are the key to your happiness. Sometimes we fall short and lose sight of ourselves, our visions and our dreams while we focus on someone else. The problem with that is that it becomes the new norm. Often times we forget how to get our old selves back. Have you ever been at a point in life where you’ve lost sight of who you are? Sometimes we are influenced by others, maybe more than we should be, and when that happens we aren’t our original, authentic selves.
Most of us have gone through this before, and if you haven’t yet, you probably will. I’m going to share with you a few ways to help you live life for yourself. If you’ve lost yourself along the way, I’m going to help you find YOU again!
You may be able to guess where you need to start, because I’ve already let you in a little bit, but let’s dive in!
FINDING YOUR CORE VALUES & BELIEFS
This is the best place to start when you’re in search of yourself. What are your core values? Why are you here? What do you hope for? What are your dreams and what does it take for you to reach them? What do you believe in? What do you want for your life? What are you passionate about? Figuring out these things will make the process much easier for you to find your path. Start here. Focus your energy and determination on finding your core values and beliefs. One way to help you to find your values and beliefs is to think back on what made you unhappy in the first place. Determining what things have made you unhappy with your current life will allow you to see what things you need to change to be happy.
Realizing what your core values and beliefs are may change somethings in the relationships that already exist for you, and that’s okay. Not everyone is meant to be in every chapter of your book. Putting yourself first is what’s most important.
SLOW YOUR ROLL
Ever get in the habit of being a robot? Doing things quickly and in the same rotation from day to day? Sometimes you just have to slow down and think. Don’t rush so much. Slow down, sit down, write a little and think. As thoughts come to your mind, jot them down. When you move too fast, you really don’t have time to think and things can really get out of hand. Usually that ends up being someone that wakes up one day and realizes they haven’t been happy for the last 5, 10 or 20 years. Don’t become the robot. Slow down and analyze things to figure out where you lost yourself and work on how to get YOU back!
FOCUS ON BEING AWARE
Sometimes you may have to stop, think and ask yourself a question before reacting. Everything starts with a solid foundation. With a good childhood, your parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, teachers, etc., create that foundation for you, but from there you have to build on it. Be aware of the things you want and the steps you have to take to get there. So many people tend to want things, but not put the necessary effort into actually getting whatever it is. Did you think it was going to fall into your lap? It never has worked that way and never will. Stop and ask yourself if what you’re about to do will benefit you. If the answer is yes, think about whether it’s worth your time and effort. Another yes? Does it line up with number one, your core values and beliefs? Yes? Okay, then slow down and put a plan in motion. What does it take for you to be able to reach that goal? No goal is too big or small. If you want it bad enough, you will work for it. Just know that no one is going to hand it to you. Some people are fortunate to have families that pass things down to them, but let’s be real, a good percentage of us don’t, and we have to work tooth and nail for everything we have. You’ll get there, but you have to make sure you don’t lose yourself in the process; if you already have, work on getting you back and create the vision!
Juanita is a hard-working lady that decided to take a leap of faith, and pursue her passion for blogging! This blog has changed her life in many ways, by providing her the opportunity to help others when they need it most! Her ultimate goal is to help Moms find balance in the midst of trying to juggle it all! Check out the “About” tab above to learn more about her!
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